Could Stress be at the bottom of many of our problems in Life?

Scientific research seems to confirm that many problems in Life are caused by stress – and there is a solution:

Stress has been proven at the heart of many problems: addiction, depression, low self-esteem, failures in relationships, at work, in life in general. Stress it seems can lead to Cancer, heart disease and a focus on anxiety or panic which many find paralysing.

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 Why is it so difficult to deal with stress – when it could be the main culprit for many of our health and personal problems?

The answer is that often stress is unconscious, buried deep in our subconscious, but managing our impulses. To get to it and disable the devastating effects on the immune system seems virtually impossible: how to fight a problem that does not even know it exists?

And Stress blocks the natural defensive agents of the body, and thus it becomes susceptible to all kinds of pathogenic viruses and bacteria.

A little Stress is good – when it activates a little adrenaline to identify and deal with challenges.  It is when it gets out of control that we spiral into meltdown and become anxious panicky worried or just plain ill. I have seen clients come in with stuttering and twitches – leaving 90 minutes later completely free of the affliction.

Is there any agent that may act directly on the cause of all our disorders, diseases and failures?

Yes! This is NOT a miracle cure – but acts by simply redirecting the unconscious processes which trigger these responses to try another more beneficent way – and this is where hypnotherapy and NLP can help you remap or alter the way that you process stress. You learn how to anchor a calm state and resolve issues in a relaxed way to find the best way forward every time.

What if you fail?

“So what fail again .. next time fail better”. (Samuel Beckett)

Learn to use perceived “failure” to do it better next time and don’t get miserable about it.

What is stress?

Stress happens when we try to do too much – of course part of this can be handled by changing the way that we handle challenges or problems – but we also should look at why the reaction is one that actually hinders you in resolving the challenge.

We have an ancient mechanism called the “fight or flight response” – which was useful if faced by a sabre toothed tiger intent on making you its breakfast – but not the same for Nigel from accounts wingeing about overspend of your budget. We try to suppress these feelings of sweaty palms .. heart racing .. a slight dizziness – that is actually the worst way to deal with your mind body response to a challenge  – because your unconscious processes will think you obviously needed more adrenaline and more stress chemicals – which makes it worse – so you try to suppress it again and so it spirals up into severe anxiety or panic or other manifestations of stress.

Rather than spiralling into a worse scenario- you can learn how to intervene and train yourself to acknowledge the alert and use the energy productively and calmly to tap into your inner experience and wisdom to find the best solution.

As you learn to process stress more productively and gain insight how to talk to the parts of you that run your mind and body – we can begin to go deep into issues and start to resolve them.

For help with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder see my web page:



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Domestic Abuse

Finally it looks as if the legislative bodies are taking seriously Domestic Abuse and are considering putting it on the same footing as sexual and physical abuse – so hopefully the dark days of calling it “a domestic” and staying out of it will be numbered.

A Police Inspector told me of a call from a Woman who was being harassed and physically abused by her ex Husband – every time the Police were called he simply wasn’t there. The Inspector decided to stake out the House after yet another fruitless visit. She didn’t have to wait long – after 15 minutes he came strolling out of the woods and walked into the house – she walked into the house and caught him physically threatening the Woman for calling the Police. She arrested him. He went on a charm offensive which she ignored. She looked in the rear view and mirror and caught what she described as a really evil look.

She said to me: “I am sure that I saved a life that day!”

PTSD Psychological Trauma Sexual and Physical Abuse

There is a great assumption that PTSD is suffered by the Armed Forces and yet it is also present in Police Officers, Medical Staff, Accident victims and victims of Domestic, Sexual and Physical abuse.

Often Post Traumatic Stress Disorder will emerge many years after the initiating event and can have crippling effects on the person. Often a smell or sound can be enough to induce a Panic Attack – and the effects may be devastating. Sometimes people will lash out or self medicate with Alcohol or Drugs and have difficulty with coping with every day Life. There are many triggers can induce Fear and severe Anxiety or Panic.

Many sex abuse physical abuse and domestic abuse will also suffer similarly with PTSD.

The good news is that there are treatments for PTSD – one of which is Hypnotherapy and NLP.

I am qualified in PTSD and Psychological Trauma having taken a Continuing Professional Development course with ex Soldier John Hutchings at the Institute of Clinical Hypnosis in 2010.

Previous to that I worked as a Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner in Harley Street London W1 and have since been working extensively in Suffolk and Essex with many people who have suffered because of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or Psychological Trauma such as Sexual and / or Physical or Domestic Abuse.

People who suffer Domestic Abuse, Sexual abuse or Physical abuse, often have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and there are many things that can trigger unpleasant memories – we can gently allow you to put those behind you – we cannot change what happened but we can change how you feel about it with Hypnosis and NLP.

There is more here PTSD and Anxiety states HERE

I use gentle methods to help you turn the trauma into a memory – we cannot change what happened but we can change how you feel about it WITHOUT having to experience the traumatic incident/s again – so that you feel that you can move on with your Life and put the past where it belongs.

Talk to me for a FREE no obligation consultation: 07875720623


Special rates for Emergency Services and Armed Forces – if you are wondering whether this works .. my trainer ex Army John Hutchings had PTSD from his time in Bosnia, the first Gulf War and Northern Ireland – and recovered using this approach and I have many satisfied clients that for reasons of confidentiality I cannot name – this is a sample testimonial from a Senior Officer in the Emergency Services:

“When you told me that I had PTSD I scoffed at you – but you were right … and your diagnosis was not only confirmed independently … but also by my collapse. You helped put me back together and gave me my Life back.

I cannot thank you enough.”

There are some related conditions not listed here but you might find on my Hypnotherapy Treatments page – I work Holistically with you to help you resolve your issues


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Graham Howes ASHPH GHR registered GHSC regulated CNHC Approved Professional Hypnotherapist (Previously in Harley Street) and NLP Practitioner Specialising in Psychological Trauma and PTSD

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Graham Howes Hypnotherapy Hypnoanalysis and NLP for Domestic Abuse, Sexual abuse, Physical abuse, PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks -  Clinics through Colchester, Essex and Hadleigh and Ipswich in Suffolk – Hypnotherapist for Psychological Trauma and PTSD Ipswich or Colchester.