How I installed iOS 9.3.1 without issue (Metaphor for Life)

How to change your Life

Upgrading the Software of your Life

My Cousin had issues with iOS – the 9.3 update on his iPhone. His browser simply stopped functioning.

He had my sympathy: I had installed El Presidente on my Mac Mini the moment it was available. My Email stopped working!

So when iOS 9.3 became available after extensive beta testing I waited. Apple Allen my compadre and local Apple Mac guru had lambasted me for the El Presidente error. Me of all people! Yes he was right .. it keeps him in Business! “NEVER install .0 of ANYTHING always wait for .1!” His words ringing in my ears. But he is right!

Years ago I installed Windows 3.0 and suffered the then institutional arrogance of Microsoft as they blamed all errors or bugs on the user. It took forever for Windows 3.1 to arrive and the “blue screen of death” became, at least, less regular.

The computer still crashed, usually in the middle of something important, but at least it was less frequent. These days with a considerable experience under their belt, or using the Apple approach you keep a grip on the Hardware so you don’t try to serve every variant of a computer, then you see less and less “bugs”. Bugs are errors in programming that lead to computers cashing or not working in the most useful way.

The term “bug” comes from Grace Poole. She was a Computer Engineer back in the days when the largely mechanical computer filled a warehouse. One day the Computer was not working as it should. She searched and searched and found that one of the electrical relays had squashed a bug which prevented it closing thus affecting the whole computer’s ability to function well.

Hypnotherapy colleagues will recognise the hoary old chestnut by now! Some of us have used this as a metaphor to help our clients understand why they are having challenges that seem insurmountable.


I had a client not long ago – a 96 year old Woman. Her very real problem was that she would, in the middle of the night, seemingly wake up and throw herself physically out of bed and scream obscenities at intruders. She was physically hurting herself with this action. Additionally she was embarrassed because usually she did not swear! Her husband said that she seemed to have her eyes open and awake.

I assured her that she had not lost the plot. That this was actually dodgy programming. She was unconsciously trying to address something. We had to find out what that something was and address these “night terrors.”

I had seen this before in a Young Woman who hallucinated a river running under her bed. She would stand there with her eyes wide open convinced there was a river in the room. Her partner learned to get towels from the bathroom and gently suggest that the flow was stopped. In the morning she would often not recall this.

It seemed like Hypnagogia. Wikipedia talks of the symptoms being:

“Transition to and from sleep may be attended by a wide variety of sensory experiences. These can occur in any modality, individually or combined, and range from the vague and barely perceptible to vivid hallucinations.”

These hallucinations may be auditory, physical, visual, or involve taste or smell. A person may feel that they are held down. They might hear loud bangs or people talking. They might see vivid and very real visions. For her it was intruders in the house.

With this lady the approach that worked best with testing was to address anxiety and stress and help her reprogram the way she went to sleep. We also addressed some childhood issues. I taught her a “going to sleep routine” I gave her an understanding of the phenomenon and gave her strategies to address stress and anxiety. The phenomenon stopped.

This seems to hold true of many situations and challenges so this is just one example or rooting out dodgy programming of oneself and finding a better software upgrade with the help of the Hypnotherapist and NLP or other Practitioner.

My iPad is running more smoothly and seems fairly issue free so far. I tend to work with clients through a course. I have a lot of experience in cases such as weight loss, the hypno gastric band, trauma, anxiety, stress and panic and other areas so we START at the 0.1 version of the software and enhance it as issues emerge. Sometimes a client will come to me with some rare variant or unusual combinations of problems and we will work together to find an approach that works.

An example of the latter was a Senior Medical Doctor who asked me to work with him and his Specialist. He had a Stroke. His left hand side was not very usable and extremely painful. He described it as being: “Like standing Naked in an Arctic Gale!”

It took a while but we found that for him imagining turning down the pain on a dial and turning up the healing helped with the level of pain. We found that visualising warmth travelling down the left side also seemed to help. We utilised something called autogenic healing. I suggested that his right hand side could remember what to do and could teach his left hand side how to burn new neurology to repair the left hand side.

When we decided that he was on the right route: he had control of his pain with minimal drugs for pain relief (before .. morphine had barely touched it!). He also had some limited movement.

What we do is complementary to other interventions but I believe that we truly can assist the healing process and move beyond habits addictions or challenges.

So if you are interested in exploring how your subconscious / unconscious software can be updated – talk to me!

Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotherapist in Colchester Essex and Ipswich Suffolk

How to upgrade your Life

What to do when your Gastric Band is Failing

What to do when the Gastric Band is Failing to Curb Obesity

I have had an influx of people, classified with obesity, who have had a real Gastric Band fitted. They have had the Bariatric Surgery but are sadly still trying to over eat.

The problem is that it usually works when you put the physical intervention of a Gastric Band or a Gastric Bypass etc BUT if the patient did not deal with WHY they overeat then they will often be in a worse position! They will crave to overeat … but the Gastric Band, at least in most cases, stops them from doing that. So what do they do if they crave to eat? They get creative.


The Band has little impact if they are a Sugar Addict or simply need the tranquilliser of Binge or Comfort Eating or Grazing!

Clients have admitted blitzing food in a liquidiser to get past the system. Puréed Fish and Chips anyone? And sugar is not affected by the Band! So the weight stays on and the addiction to eating to feel comfortable.

How Hypnosis NLP and Hypnotherapy can help with a Real Gastric Band

I have a great deal of experience with the Virtual Gastric Band or HypnoGastricBand Hypnosis – sometimes known as Hypno Band – so now I am offering an after care service to deal with the overeating.

We will find strategies for such things as stress, boredom, anxiety, worry, depression and more.

We will deal with the addiction – if that is what drives the excessive eating or drinking.

Together we can tackle the chocolate or sugar or alcohol addiction.

Together we can tackle all the underlying reasons driving the overeating so that, with the Gastric Band, you get the overeating and obesity under your control.

We look at HOW to tackle the obesity.

Which means that the Gastric Band can finally do it’s work and curb the appetite.

Graham Howes Certified HypnoGastricBand Practitioner Advanced Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex GHR registered and GHSC regulated CNHC approved

Click Below for more information or text or call me for a FREE CONSULTATION and ASSESSMENT on: 07875720623

Hypno Gastric Band in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex or by Skype

An alternative to dieting – how to really lose weight

How to Lose Weight without Dieting – Is this the answer you’ve been looking for?

Diets Don’t Work

Studies show that 98% of people find that diets don’t help long term – all the books, clubs, new diets, shakes, meal replacements, raspberry ketones pills – MIGHT help you lose weight short term – but nutritionists say that nearly ANY starvation or restriction diet will help short term but that really you need to target long term your “normal eating” because every time you get bored and go back to your “normal eating” you often put on weight, or worse, put on EVEN MORE weight!

Weight loss hypnosisTackling why you overeat

I believe that you need to tackle WHY you overeat and motivate yourself to put in place some easy strategies to naturally lose weight. Restriction or Replacement or Starvation diets are often not healthy long term and can stimulate the body to defend itself from attack by making you eat MORE.

You need a no nonsense approach based around proper nutritional best practice. It’s confusing about what you should and shouldn’t be eating, how many calories and carbs, what exercise? Is Red Wine good or Bad? Must I stop eating chocolate?

If you feel like a dieting failure – then the dieting industry loves you because you are the ultimate repeat business! You believe it is all your fault when actually it has been known for a long time that diets don’t work well long term for many people.

You are not lazy, stupid, weak-willed or undisciplined – you’ve just picked up some bad coping habits that make you larger than you need to be.  This means that you are putting your system under severe strain from all the extra weight – it is like carrying around bricks in a rucksack!

And there are risks with obesity that are well known; cardio vascular trouble, type 2 diabetes, osteoarthritis, bad backs and knees, blood pressure and even cancer and depression!

And it isn’t your fault if diets don’t work for you. There is a way of losing weight and keeping it off permanently.

Would you like to find out how to eat “normal” amounts of great food and become the weight that you want to be?

I will help motivate some exercise and “intelligent eating” and I will help you deal holistically with the reasons WHY you overeat: these can be many: because of depression, boredom, anxiety stress, trauma and many more.

I have been used this weight loss course successfully with many hundreds of clients – I tailor each to your individual needs. I was in Harley Street and have been at French Complexion in Hadleigh since it opened in it’s new premises. For convenience I am at French Complexion on Sundays – where you will work with me in complete confidence. I am at my Private Practice in Ipswich Suffolk through the week. I also serve Colchester at Tree Room Centre, 11 Trinity Street, in Central Colchester by appointment.

Easy Weight Loss with gastric band hypnotherapy
Easy Weight Loss with gastric band hypnosis

Recent testimonial from Diana L on Facebook

    “Stop thinking about it everyone go and do it ….. Changed my life for the better, I am now 2 stone lighter and my dress size has gone for a 16 to a 12 just brilliant thank you Graham and my personal trainer Trish with her help and the loss of weight I can now run a 5k easily and am now training for a 10K next year……..”

“Just thought you would like to know: I have now lost 3 1/2 stone!” Ruth R

Tel /Text for an appointment 07875720623 in Ipswich or Hadleigh Suffolk or Colchester Essex

Disclaimer: Hypnosis is not a magic wand – we work together to find the best possible outcome. Courses are non refundable