How to find success

How to Find Success

Failure is often misunderstood and people find it devastating that they failed. They judge themselves as a lesser person because by their terms it didn’t work. In Hypnotherapy we work with the notion that: Failure teaches us to do better.

As Samuel Beckett put it: “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”

So Failure is not a bad thing. “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.” ― H.G. Wells.

How you deal with Failure is a mindset. So the same can be said of success.

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If you set yourself an achievable goal you can succeed. If you succeed your Confidence grows. If your Confidence grows you set yourself something more ambitious – and you keep going no matter what. The failure teaches you and the success empowers you.

Hypnotherapy and NLP helps you with finding how to focus and concentrate on finding positive outcomes

I am a hypnotherapist based in Ipswich Suffolk and with Hypnotherapy practices in Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex. I have been motivating people in those practices, in Harley Street, and at places of Business, Drama Schools and on TV. So I strongly believe that you too can find your success by changing your mindset.

If you think negatively studies show that you will probably get what you seek:

“I will never get that job!” No, you won’t if you program yourself not to have a chance.

If you think positively you start to look for solutions not problems:

Some people are very good at telling you all the reasons why something won’t work. People are less good at finding and focussing on all the reasons why it might work or will work. If you are solution focussed and you learn how to “go into the zone”, where you relax and look for solutions, then your powerful experience will help you find the solution.

Indian Proverb: “How do you eat an Elephant? In small bites.. ”

You break any challenge down into chunks and find resolutions for each challenge. Hypnotherapy and NLP teaches you how to do this. This is useful because many people are paralysed by fear or anxiety or stress.

Buddha: “Fear is the Mind Killer”

If we are dominated by a fear of what MIGHT go wrong we don’t take positive action based on sound judgement. We go into fight or flight mode and become unable to take positive action. If we learn how to relax breathe and go into the zone – we will resolve most problems – or as I prefer to say “challenges”.

Change your mindset and change your Life – you can LEARN how to find your success by making it happen.

Tall to me for FREE to learn how to find YOUR success: 07875720623



Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotherapy and NLP in Ipswich and Colchester



George Martin Dies – and the World is a Little Poorer

How Sad that George Martin the “Fifth Beatle” has died.

The Creative Genius Who Moulded The Beatles and Made their Musical Dreams Masterpieces has died aged 90

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George Martin contributed hugely to the Beatles sound and made their ideas work.

It is said that Jimi Hendrix could not achieve the “sound that was in his head” and so Hendrix’s Producer asked George Martin who pointed him towards some electronic effect from the 1940s. With a little updating Hendrix’s sound was born.

Sir George brilliantly combined awesome technical knowledge with innovative thinking and was also an accomplished Musician who could score a piece as required.

The Producers’ Producer, and so quiet and modest, how did he move from Peter Sellers Comedy Records to The Beatles? Well at bottom he had skill and could turn his hand to anything.

He is part of the DNA of what is excellent in Music. If nothing else he moulded the Beatles into probably the biggest Band ever. Each Beatle track was a polished gem: “Before George Martin people recorded music. After George Martin people Produced music.” The World has lost a little radiance today.

The Top 5 Misconceptions About Hypnotherapy

5 Hypnosis Myths Explained in relation to Hypnotherapy 

Hypnosis has been around for most of our time as humans in some way or other. The Shaman would use Trance for Healing and Instruction. Greeks and Egyptians had versions of Dream Temples of Healing.

In the last few hundred years our understanding of trance and hypnotic techniques and applications of hypnosis for therapy have increased. Despite this many people still think some pretty strange things about hypnosis involving something very like Hypnosis..


Here are my top five things that people have got wrong about hypnosis ….

Hypnosis Myth Number One: All Hypnosis Is The Same

There is a huge variety in the different styles and techniques that come under the banner of hypnosis. You could see two different hypnotherapists for the same issue and they may take completely different approaches to your issue:
The two main approaches when using hypnosis are ‘authoritarian’ and ‘permissive’ –

Authoritarian hypnotic techniques are direct and instructive and is not for everyone – not everyone wants to be told what to do.

Permissive hypnosis is subtle and works with the client to find a way forward utilising the clients own ability to see their issue in a new light. We work to find strategies to change the script!

Hypnosis Myth Number Two: Subliminal Messages Work While I Am Asleep

This misconception has lingered for a while, not just in the field of hypnotherapy but also in advertising. By definition you are unaware of subliminal messages. If you do become aware of them then it isn’t subliminal.
If this method did work then if you fell asleep watching the news you should still know what happened in the world when you woke up. This does not happen.
However, when you are in trance you are not asleep. It may feel that way because that seems the closest thing to your experience. Quite a few clients tell me that they fall asleep and when I gently point out that they are losing weight /stopped smoking / moved beyond the issue they have to concede that something must have been happenings! Actually trance is a state of focussed awareness. When Jessica Ennis Hill is participating in a race she talks of going into the Zone. She means this state of focussed awareness similar to when you watch a film or sports event and don’t notice anything but the event that you are “lost” in. When you are in trance it is possible to hear messages and ideas without having conscious awareness of them. With this knowledge you could then find your thoughts, feelings and behaviour changing. This happens because you stop referring to the old habits and cravings and start looking at your Life in a new way.

Hypnosis Myth Number Three: Not Everyone Can Be Hypnotised

Everyone can and does go into trance, pretty much every single day. Every time you really concentrate and drift away distractions you are utilising trance. A good hypnotherapist who takes the time to find out about you as a person and who has experience and a range of skills in helping people will have a much better chance of helping someone be in a hypnotic state of mind.

There is also an element of co-operation though. If you don’t want to be hypnotised you could sit there with your eyes closed and in your head just say “No, I CANNOT be hypnotised. I’m not going to drift off, I’m not going to go into trance!” and it almost certainly won’t happen. But then what is the point in going to see a hypnotherapist if you are not willing to be hypnotised. It isn’t Mind Control and you won’t be doing the funky chicken in the therapy room! When a good hypnotherapist works with someone who wants to make an achievable change there is a great chance that change will happen.

Hypnosis Myth Number Four: You Are MADE To Go Into Trance By Someone Else

“All hypnosis is self hypnosis.” You hypnotise yourself, all the time. For example when you convince yourself an injection will hurt and and imagine just how painful it will be before the event you make it much more likely to hurt. This is a sort of negative self hypnosis. A hypnotherapist will help you to go into trance but won’t make you do anything. Think of it as more of a partnership between you and your hypnotherapist.

Hypnosis Myth Number Five: You Are Not In Control When You Are In Trance

This is a big fear of some people and can mean that they don’t ask for the help of a hypnotherapist when it could be the most appropriate and useful method of personal change. The reason they don’t ask for help is because they are afraid that they won’t be in control.

Some people worry that they will blurt out their secrets when in trance. Some people worry that they won’t like the feeling of having someone else making their decisions for them (which doesn’t happen anyway).

This kind of thinking often affects people who describe themselves as “a bit of a control freak”. The truth of the matter is that people who like to be in control actually often make the best hypnotic subjects as they know themselves, their thought and feelings in a lot of detail which means that they can provide great insight into their situation which helps the hypnotherapist find the most appropriate and effective method of help.

In any case a Professional Hypnotherapist should be on a Professional Register like the GHR and regulated by the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC). Some are also approved by the CNHC Complementary National Healthcare – a gold standard of approved practitioners.

I use Hypnotherapy with Hypnoanalysis and NLP to help you most efficiently change your life and move forward free of those habits traumas restrictions fears phobias or issue.

If you have any questions about hypnosis and hypnotherapy which are not answered here or on my FAQ page please do get in touch using the details on my contact page.

I am more than happy to provide a free phone call – call me and leave a message or text 07875720623 to help you make an informed and educated decision about whether hypnosis is right for you in confidence.

Graham Howes Professional Advanced HypnotherapIST – Hypnosis and NLP in Ipswich Suffolk Colchester Essex and by Skype Worldwide – GHR Registered GHSC Regulated CNHC Approved